Thanks for well the well wishes, and realize that my brother is in Las Vegas and no where close to me. He cannot go back to Montana as there are several warrants out for his arrest. He has a permanent restraining order, keeps him from my mom and any family member, but those are only as good as the police that enforce them. Missoula would pick him up when they could find him and he would be in jail over night, get bailed or released and then right back at mother's madder than hell and even meaner. Mom gave up as all it did was make him more violent. Know also that he is brilliant and cunning and seems to have a sixth sense about getting caught. The only thing that really protects us is that my Husband would shoot him on sight if he comes on our property. There will be no second chances. I know this sounds harsh, but we have endured his nonsense for all our married life and I endured his crap all through high school and college. He has no where to go, no one will tolerate him, but he does call and badger mom for money. Since I am the one that has to drive her to get the money and then to the Western Union office, I also have to fill out the paper work and text the receiving #'s to him.
I get really angry with mom for allowing him bully me and also that she gives in, she just sent him 100 dollars last week for his birthday. I am sure I won't even receive a birthday gift. SO mom and I have words every time he calls. She screams and yells at me and I calmly tell her, if I have to be involved I will have my say and I don't approve. I tell her it hurts my feelings. She claims that we girls hate the boys, well yes because they are lazy pieces of crap and you have supported and favored them all our life. You pit us up against them, what do you expect? I will stand my ground about the unfairness. It makes her furious but I will NEVER back down. If I have to be involved she will hear my side.
I know it is not about me, but it hurts, to watch her dump money down my worthless brothers and she never ever helped us all the time the kids were growing up and we were very poor. Hubs wages were crap and I was working 4 and 5 jobs part time to try and stay home with the kids. She just turned a blind eye and was angry at me for not working full time somewhere and climbing the corporate ladder. I could have but I just felt that the kids were more important. She also was mad when ever I had another child. She was furious when I had the last one and I think she wanted to punish me. But youngest brother has 5 he can't support, and mom pays the child support monthly on his oldest two. She was mad tonight when I took her to the grocery store, where she bought orange juice, apples,($1.89 lb) sugar laden yogurt and her cost was $25.00. Sorry mom I won't buy things I don't normally buy, the stipend you begrudgingly give us, does not even cover your expenses. She will keep all this food down in her personal fridge.
I was able to get a lot done today in the shop. Picked up a few more things for the party, and cooked up all the ingredients to put in the quiches. I got in my exercise and made pork chops, potatoes, and veg for dinner.
Today I am having lunch with a friend, and I have more sewing to do. I will make crusts and bake quiches. We will have that for dinner along with a salad. I also have to take mom to Costco for some meds and will buy my fruit there for the fruit tray.
I will also try to deep clean both bedrooms and baths and dust and do floors in hall and living room. That way I will only have the kitchen and dining to do Friday. As I will be cooking in the kitchen it doesn't do much good to deep clean with mom touching and spilling as she goes.
Lil Sis is on the outs with me and I can't figure out why? But I will not condone her behavior in some ways either. I call crap, crap and when it comes to Mom I will protect her at all costs. I thought when Lil sis moved here, we would spend more time together and I would have a friend, but that isn't happening. Our life styles are too different. I don't think she even likes me very much. I am a convenience when she needs something. She does help with mom and for that I am forever grateful.
I have made significant progress on my debt totals which I will post tomorrow, I will be down two more bills by the end of the month and then can concentrate on the next one. Even with all of the chaos, I am moving forward.
Have a great and productive day,