Friday, July 21, 2017

Friday, Deck is done!

     The Deck is painted and it is not perfect but it is livable.  It looks much nicer and I am going to be happy with it.  It was hot, boring hard, crappy work, but it is done.  The deck really needs replacing and I am not about to put any more time or money into it.  The next time will be to replace the darn thing.  Unless mom passes and we sell this over sized house we live in and go on a Mission some where.

     I get to meet Sluggy and her husband in less than a week and I am so excited.  We will have such fun.  But first I might have to sober her up.  Have you seen her latest post?  Love that woman.

     Mom continues to mend physically but emotionally she is a bear.  We actually talked last night about her going to live in a home.  She does not want to, but her behavior toward me is so bad that I am at the point of doing this.  If she is that unhappy living with me she needs to find a better place and I will help her.

     She kept bringing up my younger brother last night as it was his 50th birthday.  She was mad at us girls because we did not fuss about it. Actually she did not remember it and then did not even know the day.  We are not close to our brothers mostly due to her behavior.  She created the mess and now has to live with it.  My younger brother is such a user.  He does not work, except at a DJ job on the weekends.  He is to old to be a DJ.  He plays fantasy video games, has never bought a car.  He gets mom's old/new ones or she buys them for him.  She feels sorry for his 4 living children as he is such and poor parent.  So we are supposed to feel bad for him also and allow her to waste what little is left of her money that she might need to live in a home on this ungrateful leech.

     So last night after a wonderful day with my Lil sis, mom cried and nagged and slammed doors and accused me of awful things.  I stood my ground but my feelings were really hurt.  She wants to go to a counselor and I said I would be glad to go with her.  Her reply was " yes, so you can rip me up for what I have done."  My reply was, "Mom behavior has consequences."  She slammed the door in my face.  Oh, my bad.  Then an hour later as I sewed and ignored her, she calls for me to come run my fingers threw her hair and help her sleep.  Anything to calm her down.  She was on the rampage from about 8:30 last night until 2 in the morning.  I finally got her to sleep and then I could not sleep until after 3 as I was so upset.  I just prayed and prayed to find some guidance.

     Yesterday I was so busy.  I thought Lil Sis would show up about noon and she was here at 10.  So I did not get to blog. Lil sis was a beautition  in early life, before she became a high rolling business exec.  She is very talented with hair.  She always looks perfect.  Well not yesterday.  I should have taken her picture yesterday.   Anyway, I have not had my hair colored professionally for a year now.  It is way too long and is so bleached out from the sun and time.  I am totally grey and have been since my late 20's.  It is so expensive to have your hair maintained and I am too cheap to do it more than once or twice a year.    So Lil sis and I went to the beauty supply and got every thing we needed and she colored and cut my hair.  It is beautiful.  Cost $35.00 for supplies.  I have enough tings left over to color many more times.  I am so grateful.  Then she stated and we finished painting the deck.  She is a good fast painter and I am terrible at  painting.

  By the way I was able to get $300 more into savings on Wednesday afternoon. So I am on track for my savings goal.

     I did not get to my sewing until after 9 last night and I still have not hemmed a wedding dress with 8 layer that needs to go out.  I also have one that I have ripped that needs to be taken in and steamed.  I must do them today.  I also want to do a lot of cut back around the pond and I have so much clean up to do out front.  Does it ever end?  No says a loud voice from the sky, it never does.

Have a great and productive day.  Thanks for listening or reading and encouraging me.  I really need it right now.

Kim  

16 comments:

  1. Let her go to the counselor alone. I am quite sure your opinion will be asked. Considering her age, she will show her mental fragility. AND, the counselor might just suggest to her she could go to a facility. Now, wouldn't that shock her.

    I am afraid she is wearing on you too much. Could she live with your sister and pay rent to her AND pay for someone to come in and help since your sister cannot work? She has all sorts of options, but you are the door mat.

    You are way too nice to her after her abuse, not that I think you should abuse her. Did your sister hear her?

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    1. I am ready to do something if things don't change. I am hoping this is a phase. But you are right she is wearing on me.

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    2. It probably is a phase, just before the worse phase. Someone in the field of geriatrics needs to assess her. It seems you reward her unreasonable behavior with the hope your acquiescing to her will improve her actions. It really does not happen that way.

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  2. I'm so jealous you get to spend time with Sluggy! I'm sure we'll read all about your antics in the news:) Sounds like mom has some issues and she's taking them all out on you! She may need to be in a different setting if the behaviour continues.

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    1. Well maybe Sluggy and I will come to see you! Wouldn't that be a kick? I could be the designated driver.

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    2. Now what is THAT suppose to mean?!? Jane likes a drink now and then too so you'll have to put us both on the Kim Treatment....teehee

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    3. It means you two will drink and I will laugh at you.

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  3. Great article for those taking care of parents. https://stewardandslave.com/obligation-care-aging-parents/ Well worth reading.

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  4. Oh and Sluggy...put that drink down! I want you to remember this trip and be able to tell us all about it! :)

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  5. I absolutely love the word DONE! It doesn't happen much around Harvest Lane Cottage right now. I'm too low energy.

    Sounds like things are difficult for you right now. Father God, I pray that you will bring peace and calm into this dear lady's heart and mind. I ask it in the name of Jesus. Give her wisdom in her decisions. Bless her. I ask in Jesus' name.

    Congratulations on the savings. We weren't able to get much debt paid off until we got an emergency fund established. That saved us this week when my teen daughter's car broke down.

    Be encouraged, be prayerful, God will lead you.

    Blessings from Harvest Lane Cottage,
    Laura

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    1. Thank you, this is much harder than I thought it would be.

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  6. You are good woman to keep going. I think its time to get help though. xxx Thinking of you

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    1. Thank you I need all the help I can get.

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  7. I wonder if your mom's behavior is a sign of a deteriorating mental condition? In this state, people often manifest irrational, and yes, even violent behavior.

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    1. Oh yes, I do believe that is the problem.

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