I completed another chart! I am now on chart 6 so I think things are getting closer to normal here. Well normal (a setting on your dryer). I am abby normal. First of all I have knocked out 3 smaller debt payments and am working on a 4th. It does make a difference in how much money I can sock away and pay toward debt. Saving, saving....
I was able to get 5 dresses altered yesterday, and started on another, however I had 3 more come in and another wedding dress. Hubs had to go to the school at 4:30 and Daughter needed me to watch Kelsa so she dropped a sandwich off to her dad as I would not be leaving the house with dinner. Which means I did not have to cook! I did P&J. Dinner today will be what I was going to cook yesterday, so no thinking, which is good for me. Hubs is out fishing for the day.
I think a couple of Hub's sisters and a brother in law are due to visit in a few days. SO I had better get this house really cleaned up and then I think, do any of these women work? Have any of them ever had to pay all the bills and take care of everything? No they have been totally taken care of and all they had to do is clean house, so if I leave it a little messy, they can help me clean. WHO's with me? If the picture frames are dusty they can clean them. I do love my Hub's family and they have all had their share of problems, but the girls do not work. Maybe a part time job here or there over the years, but very rarely. I have been severely criticized for working. I was supposed to live in poverty if their brother could not provide. I wanted to much. I have a little bit of jealousy and angst about this. Just sayin. It makes me nervous to have them here as I feel judged And actually they are probably really not judging me at all. It is all my own head's verbal vomit. Anyway I digress. I am happy to have them and I am nervous to have them. Hub's is super excited. Me not so much, more on the oh crap I hope I can pull this off mind set.
That being said, I need to really get caught up on the sewing (if I can so I can spend some time with them). I have four dresses I want to get altered today and then a wedding dress. I know daughter is coming by to have me drive her somewhere as she takes her car in to have it worked on. I will also have the kids tonight while she teaches. Got to get my work done today.
Thrifty Thursday:
1. saved all my spare change
2. saved all $5 bills now up to $805.00
3. saved a $1,$5,$10,$20 dollar bill
4. saved money in two of my 100 saving envelopes
5. ate and cooked all meals at home except one and then brought home leftovers to eat for lunch the next day
6. no food waste, fed all scraps to the chickens
7. picked up free bread stuff from a give away
8. found .6 cents a penny and a nickle at Albertsons
9. used a coupon at Joanns for thread.
10. won free merch at Albertsons, water bottles 3, fruit cocktail, goldfish packages, vinegar, sparkling water, plus .50 off a few things I would normally buy
11. Found a skirt for my little missionary friend at goodwill brand new for $4.99
12.Bought potting soil for flower pots 5/10 on sale at Home depot, they have this sale once a year.
13. Brought out my wintered over geraniums to harden off, I think I save at least 3/4's of them and 3 spikes.
14. recovered cushions with sale material rather than buying new saved a ton of money
Did you do anything to save money this week?
Have a great and productive day staying positive while you are in the negative.
Kim
Hi Kim
ReplyDeleteEverytime I read your posts I think to myself, "how in the world does she get it all done?"... As for the in laws...Some unwated advice... Who cares what they think? I used to run around like crazy if I had company coming over especially my family from up North. Making sure everything was just perfect and then, two years ago I was like. Hmm, ya know what? I could care less what anyone thinks. Im happy, my husband loves me as I am that's all that matter. His opinion is all that matters...If they don't like how my home looks, don't come.... Sorry if that sounded harsh it's just how I feel about things now. Im done with trying to meet someone else's standards.. I have my own and they are good enough for me... Way to go on the savings!!.. I didn't do anything to save this week but I did last week. I went to GoodWill and found some really pretty skirts and tops all in excellent shape for the summer and a white pair of jeans as well.!..
Old Swedish proverb "If you came to see my house you are not my friend" That said I am going to calm down. I wish you and I lived close as we could have so much fun together.
DeleteDon't you dare worry what they will they. You are one busy women, not a pampered little soul - so you live in your house!!!!!
ReplyDeleteI clean after company leaves - I mean really it will get messed up while they are there.
You work hard - quit beating yourself up.
I will I just think I am a little jealous. Hubs and I talked about it last night and he understands,if the picture frames in the front room are dusty they can dust them.
DeleteI have always worked, and most women I know worked outside the home. You are a fabulous, talented, smart, good soul, who raised hard working, wonderful children, who are fabulous mothers. You are a splendid grandmother, as my dearly departed momma would say. Hold your head high, queen, and adjust your crown! You are the matriarch of your family and a fabulously fine one!!!!Pff to those who dare to criticize you!! They simply cannot offer valid criticism! Now carry on royally!
ReplyDeleteThanks Cindy, I needed that. I had a talk with hubs last night and he calmed me down.,
DeleteAs the other posters have said, you work hard. Try to shut down the voices (in your head, or in real life). You are getting across a tremendous amount in your life, and doing way more than most. That's enough. You are enough. You don't need to go beyond that for others.
ReplyDeleteI know but my little green monster that has always been jealous of my SIL's gets out of wack sometimes.
DeleteSpeaking from experience, if the sisters are not terribly younger than your husband, it won't matter because as long as things are uncluttered everything looks great at a distance and if they looking up close everything looks like. Monet painting. Give yourself some grace and just let it be what it is! And if you hear of them talking about you behind your back call me. I know lots of names we can call them.
ReplyDeleteThey are all about my age, but I am just letting my jealousy show.
DeleteJust repeat my theme song I posted a few days ago.....lolz
ReplyDeletewent out last night and bought a box of donuts about 9 p.m. won't tell you how many I ate.
DeleteHead to Alabama and we can eat hot Krispy Kreme doughnuts. If they are eaten hot they almost melt in your mouth which means they have no calories, right?
DeleteI have given up on making my house spotless for people. We live here and the house looks lived in. If the in laws don't like it tough.
ReplyDeleteI have worked part time and full time and now that we are retired work full time at saving money where and how I can.
You did wonderfully being thrifty this week.
God bless.
Thanks Jackie.
DeleteI saved by not spending some days and spending little other days. I think maybe the SILs think you make their brother look bad by not making enough money.
ReplyDeleteYou are so funny, love that.
DeleteIf they don't think its clean enough Kim .... they sure don't have to come & stay. If it is worrying you - then definately get them to help you clean & I'm sure they would be happy to. I love cleaning other peoples houses - its only my own I have trouble with !!!
ReplyDeleteThat is such a great idea!
Deleteplease please please don't do things for others. If they don't like it, they can fix it or they can leave. No comment please-this is my home.
ReplyDeleteHonestly, how dare they say you should live in poverty. They don't make the rules for your life. You and hubs have agree on your life together. Period.
My Mom once told me my home wasn't clean enough. My Dad looked at me like "uh oh". I pointed to the closet that holds all the towels and the cupboard under the sink that held cleaning solutions and said she could go ahead and fix it then. Never another word! My Dad laughed. Our home is clean enough and always has been but I'm no white glove hausfrou ;-)
You do YOU and hold your head high!
Thanks Elle. Their homes are huge and perfect. They spend more on decorations for said homes than we make a year, I always feel so small next to them. But I will kick my butt and get over it.
DeleteAnd your home is perfect for you, loved by you and kept up nicely by you, to your standards. You win :-) Puff out that chest girl and hold your head high. You work your arse off and have exactly what you want and darn near debt free! God doesn't care about the size of your home or the "dress to impress decor" you don't want/have.
DeleteIf you were one of mine, I would be asking you WHY their opinion mattered more than your Hubby. If they say something tell them THEIR BROTHER IS HAPPY AND THAT'S ALL YOU CARE ABOUT.
ReplyDeleteMy grandmothers always worked outside the home and from home. My great grandmothers ran their own businesses.
You know so did mine. My mother started teaching in a one room school house at 17, I am bread to be this way.
DeleteI feel the need to clean house for company too. It's something we need to stop doing to ourselves. Congratulations on getting another chart filled out.
ReplyDeleteThanks Belinda, that gene runs deep, no?
DeleteI missed your post yesterday, and judging by today's, you sorted your mind out. My house has exploded-new computer equipment (that isn't all functioning) and the house is a disaster. I'm waiting for my MIL to stop by-just because. Well, I have limited mental capacity to think all day and do housework! As others said, remember how much you are doing fo rthose ou care about most.
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