Monday, Rainy Memorial Day weekend

 

Happy Memorial Day and thank you to all who serve and have served to protect our freedoms.

It is very cold and wet here again. and will continue to be for the week.  At least we don't have to worry about drought.

So, no picnics and celebrations here. We decided to do the missionary loop yesterday as it was such a rainy cold day.  I must say the rape fields in full bloom on the prairie are gorgeous. 

Because I knew the weather was not going to cooperate, and I was (am) so tired of sewing, I woke up on Saturday with a penchant to clean some cupboards and do some organizing.

I cleaned out all the drawers in the kitchen a downsized again quite a few things I don't use.  I also cleaned out the spice cabinet and the kitchen food cabinet.  Putting things where they go and then finding odds and ends that need to be used up.  You know those 1/3 bags of pasta that get thrown to the back.

Hub's memory issues are scaring me to death, and I have seen many slip ups in the last few days. More than usual and some with bad consequences. He took wrong turn after wrong turn getting to missionary apartments that we have driven to every 6 weeks for the past 4 years.  Then we got home, and I had put a roast in the crockpot as I had to take meal into a friend whose husband is on hospice. Well, the crockpot was on low, and I knew I had turned it too high.  The roast was done but not the veggies.   Hubby turned it down, I don't know why, he doesn't know why.  I told him you don't do the cooking so don't assume you know what is best.  I was so frustrated after the 4.5 hours in the car with him taking every wrong road there was.

Segue:  Saturday afternoon, we needed to go to Walmart to get a large plastic garbage can for the shed.  We have mice getting into the chicken feed.  On the way home I just got the distinct impression I needed to stop at a friend's, house, so I went to the dollar store to get a storage item and I grabbed their favorite candy bars as a treat.  When we got to the house, here is our friend in a hospital bed and hospice was called in.  My girlfriend was a puddle. He is 94 and we knew this was coming, but it is always a shock when it does. She was so tired, so hubs drove home, and I insisted she take a nap, I could sit with her husband.  

The problem is that this is a second marriage for him, and she married late and has no children. His children are all in their late 70's and not in good health.  She has no family to rally and take turns. She did feel better after the nap, but I insisted on going back over at 11:00 that night so she could get some sleep.  She puttered around until 2:30 and finally went to bed and slept for a good 4 hours.  He had me up 5 times during that 4-hour spell.  She is not getting any sleep.  

I left the house at 6:30 a.m. and went home to bed and hubs woke me at 11:00.  Now I had 45 minutes to get a roast ready and get myself ready for church.  I moved quickly but did not clean up the carrot peels and the potato skins, I just left the mess, and we went to church. When we got home, I was super irritated about the crockpot, and I had to get all the veggies out of the pot and boil them to get them done. Hubs is sheepish and when I went in to change out of church clothes so I could clean the kitchen up I hear the garbage disposal running.  Why?  The carrot peelings go to the chickens, the potato peels get thrown away.  You Never, never, never put potato peels down the disposal.  They foam and clog the plumbing something fierce.  I learned this early on in my marriage from hubs himself.  

I hollered, "what are you doing?"  Sure, enough he is grinding up potato peelings and he has the sinks clogged.  I was on the phone with my oldest and she asks to talk to him, and she gave him the what for.  As he denied knowing he shouldn't do that.  She told him in no uncertain terms he did know it and if he had forgotten he needed to own it.  Also I told him if a plumber had to be called it was coming out of his savings.  I was not going to work harder in the shop any longer to fix the things he broke or ruined because he forgot.  Now his hands are shaking and he cannot remove the disposal and fix his mess.  

I just left him and went to deliver dinner to my girlfriend. Her husband really appreciated the meal although he ate very little.  I know I was over tired from being up all night, so hubs behavior had me just beside myself, plus if you want to know the truth.  I AM SCARED! When I returned home, he had the sinks unclogged, I am sure he was super relieved I was still very annoyed. I did blame myself, as I should have cleaned up those peelings before I left for church.  I left the mess and he thought he was helping, but he so often is not helping.   It is just so hard. I can't trust him on so many levels and I want to.

I know I need to react better as this is just going to get worse, but sometimes I just fail. The only good side to this is that I needed a thorough clean under the sink and that got done.  Also, two of our cupboard doors under that sink right next to each other are having problems with hinges coming lose and one of the doors is actually broken where the hinge is.  But hubs was able to get down there and glue and clamp and fix both problems and he has to get a larger screw as one is stripped. So he is so capable and then so not capable. 

He has pit practice tonight for Cinderella, and I am worried, as he was having trouble following the hymns at church.  HE kept jumping to the wrong line and I had to keep pointing to where we were in the music. Although he did not like the cleft the music for Cinderella was written in and rewrote all his parts.  He also rewrote parts for other musicians upon request.  I just worry.  We will see.  This is heartbreaking.

I was able to clean out my bedside drawer and my makeup drawer in the master bath.  I also did a little work on the maser closet and switched my winter shoes and clogs for sandals.  I would have liked to have gotten more done but my girlfriend's situation has taken the wind out of my sails.

I am going in to get some sewing done.  Mostly because just getting something done will calm my nerves!

Have a great and productive day staying positive while you are in the negative.

Kim