My Eldest daughter made her appearance Friday, February the 13th, 1981 at 4:13 a.m. weighing 8lb 13oz. and my life changed forever. So did my body. I was 5'3" weighing 101 when I got pregnant with her and she really was way to big a baby to have. But this was back in the days of natural childbirth, no drugs no epidurals. There was no surgeon available and after three days they pulled her out with a high forceps delivery. She had moon shaped blood blisters on her cheeks and she still in the sunlight has slight scars from this. I remember the poor family doc that delivered her had those little green booties over his cowboy boots and as he was pulling her out, he was pulling me off the table. Don't worry I was praying to die at the time. So hubs and a nurse held under each of my arms. He put his wrapped cowboy boot out on the end of the table and pulled. It was quite the experience let me tell you. You were supposed to be in recovery for 2 hours and I was there for over 24. I kept having grand mall seizures. I made no connection with her and the nurses did not want me to take her home I think they saw that look in my eye.
But after being home about 3 days I finally bonded with her. The delivery was just too much. I should have had a C section. Oh well we both survived. However with the next three I was a whole lot bossier and meaner. Hubs would try to keep the nurses away from me because he was afraid for them. I always asked for as much pain medication as I could get and I never got anything. Just never had regular contractions, and would go from 5 to 10 in one contraction. Then one or two pushes and you have a baby. This is what having an almost 9 lb baby first will do for you. Okay TMI. The gods of delivery hated me I am convinced.
James a Schmills have played all day and everyone just had a bath and all needed a bath let me tell you. Kelsa has been a sweet pill all day refusing nap for more than 20 minutes at a time. I hope she sleeps tonight. D#1 has a beautiful voice and sang Kelsa to sleep last night. In fact when daughter was 15 she was the lead in the musical, The Boyfriend and a Music professor from WSU came down to see the show and she was offered a 4 year vocal scholarship on the spot. Her senior year in high school she decided to go to the U of Idaho also on a full ride, but she was determined to go to law school. She knew she was good, and we knew she was good, but good sopranos are a dime a dozen, and her theatrics she can use in the courtroom and does.
D#1 wanted to go out tonight, but I talked her into making leek and potato soup, son in law brought home bread to go with it. See I even try to save money at her house. I have been to a few stores here and found more picture frames to match my collage. All were on sale so that was nice. D#1's mother in law is making stuffed shells tomorrow and we will have a fruit tart for her cake. Which will be a nice change before we go into our death by chocolate on the 14th.
Both the girls taught dance here as D#2 who did dance professionally for three years went into the Eldest's class and team taught with her and they will do the same thing at a point class this morning. D#1's students brought her very funny gifts for her birthday. They made a cake out of stacked diet coke cans it was so cute. She is loved by her students, and she teaches about 4 hours a week as it is a break from prosecution. I wish our youngest could have come down. But as it is we have a houseful.
Have a great and productive day staying positive while you are in the negative.
Kim
What a birth story! Not TMI.
ReplyDeleteWell it was truly one in a million.
DeleteWhat a birth story! I had peanuts comparatively. Since son was so eager to come, I was on bed rest for a month, then he came at 5 pounds 10 ounces. You sure are a proud mama.
ReplyDeleteI am and you should be too look at your great kids!
DeleteOMG. This is a sore subject for me. Folks can say what they want about Mississippi but I received excellent medical care in Mississippi. I had an epidural with the first, in 86, the second came too fast after water broke, so I did not have one then, and because of the fear that I would give birth on the side of the road, the doctor insisted I come to the hospital at the beginning of labor with the third and fourth kids which was wise because when my water broke, the babies came in under five minutes. My daughter and grandbaby almost died at U of U because they did not do C section early enough. I am still upset. I just think the hospitals in Utah and Idaho have the attitude that you can give birth in the morning, and plow the back 40 in the afternoon. I remember being at BYU in the late 70’s until 81, and telling my mom, a nurse in Alabama, about what happened with some of my pregnant girlfriends at BYU, and she told me I was not getting married and having a baby out there, I was to come home where I would survive. The tone of her voice implied she would come get me.....lol. Momma was not having it. I meant to tell you your grandkids are very cute!
ReplyDeleteHi Cindy,
DeleteI'm not "Out My Window", but I just had to give a shout out for Mississippi. I'm a Mississippi girl born and bred. Have never lived anywhere else, and I can say we have great health care. Thanks for your Mississippi health care story.
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DeleteTwo kids in Jackson and two in Columbus. I had top notch obgyn docs in both places, as well as interim healthcare in Cleveland, MS. Great pediatrician in Columbus also.
DeleteWell I must say that if I had not lost my second one to birth defects after she was born I would have delivered the rest myself, as the hospital did nothing to help ease the pain. They just came in to boss you around. I ignored them and did what I wanted. I do not have a lot of respect for labor and delivery anybody. I was told it was a natural thing and no one died from pain. No but they sure have gone crazy from it!
DeleteWow, Kim, what a birth dory. Happy Birthday to her today. I hope she has a great day and you too
ReplyDeleteWe have had such fun.
DeleteHappy Birthday to the one that made you Mommy!
ReplyDeleteBless your heart, that is a birth story.
I had an emergency C section with my first.
Madison wanted to stay inside too long, I think!
Have a lovely day, my friend.
I would have killed for a C-section my friend.
DeleteHappy birthday to your eldest! My son's delivery almost killed me, and then he saved my life. I almost bled out during delivery, and they cleared the room & prepped me to have a hysterectomy. As a last minute hail mary, they called a lactation consultant to see if she could help me start breastfeeding. She finally got him started, and the bleeding stopped. I'm so grateful for many reasons, but mostly that I could have #2! I was terrified of delivery of my second child, which was the easiest delivery ever. Probably because it had only been 13 months since the last one. ;-)
ReplyDeleteWell I have found out since than and watching my girls deliver, that athletes and professional dancers almost always end up with a c-section as the core is so strong they do not relax.
DeleteTry having a 9lb.11oz.baby with a head circumference the size of a toddler. lolz
ReplyDeleteHappy Birthday to J!!!
Too bad they didn't knock you out when J was born....that way you'd have "deniable plausibility" that she was yours if she had turned out badly. hehehe J will appreciate that!
I think you really had two babies that just morphed into one. Plausible deniability my ass.
DeleteOh my, what a birth story!
ReplyDeleteSo glad you both survived that ordeal. I think I would have told my husband he wasn't touching me again for a long time.
Happy birthday to your daughter and Happy Valentine's day.
Well yes there was that.....
DeleteHappy Birthday to your daughter!
ReplyDeleteOh my goodness, that's quite a birth story. Like Hawaii Planner, I almost died giving birth.
I wanted to die.
DeleteHappy Birthday to your Daughter.
ReplyDeleteI did not have any drugs with any of my three children. I also did not have any problems. I had to laugh when the first was born at 8 pounds 10 ounces as I took one look at the doctor and said "Thank God I smoked." Quit the next two times I got pregnant and the babies just got bigger. My poor sister had three and all were well over 10 pounds, she is tiny like you were.
All this to say I don't blame you for getting bossy with the nurses.
God bless.
Yeah you know it is your body and your right.
Deletei HAD BABIES IN 1968 and 1970 and there was always drugs. This was not the time for natural childbirth. My first weighed 9'8". The next two, girls, weighed 6' and 6'9". Those forceps were dangerous!
ReplyDeleteNo, he was 8'9"
DeleteThey were not comfortable either. Like I said I was praying to die.
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