Wednesday, February 17, 2021

Thursday, Home again!

    


Here is a five generation picture of Hubs with his mom and D#2 and the kids.  This was taken right before we put them on the plane to fly home.  We had a wonderful time with family and I am happy to be home.  Even though we came home to 8-9 inches of snow and Hubs could not get the snowblower to start.  Although it started right up earlier this year.  Knowing him he probably left something on or did not do something right like he did with our other lawn things.  He just can't remember how to operate things and breaks them.  I was told by our repair man that the last two repair jobs on lawn things were hubs fault.   I will be really irritated is we take this in and it is because he left gas or something in it that should have been drained.  Ugh!

Hubs dad was worse than ever and I really worry about his mom.  When we got there I started immediately making  prime rib vegetable soup.  She will usually fuss and come into the kitchen to see what you are doing and get involved and she did not ask me a word.  I went in and out to get things out of the storage in the basement.  I made a large pot of this soup/stew and it was delicious.  Then after supper I cleaned the kitchen, which she usually will not let you do. She said it was so nice not to have to clean up and to be waited on.  This has never happened.  She also admitted to me that she sometimes does not cook as taking care of dad, is just to exhausting.  We had long suspended this.  By evening she is just too tired to cook.

She loves the meals Hub's sister and I prepared at Christmas and has been using about one every other week.  They last her about three days.  I left enough soup for them to eat this evening and she froze another portion. Plus the good bone broth will give her some energy. When our dog Roscoe came into the room dad asked if dogs were now being allowed in the Temple.  We told him he was at home.  He thought he was at Temple. He had mom up again last night and I got up and got him back to bed. Hubs is useless at this as he is deaf and with out hearing aids he hears nothing.  Heck with hearing aids he hears what he wants to.

I was hoping the shop would be picking up, and I do have clients lined up for tomorrow.  But with the snow most people just stay put.  In fact one of the roads to our house is closed down for snow.  Oh well I will have time to unpack and get things caught up around here.

Thrifty Thursday:

1. saved all my change while we were gone and put it in my bank when we got home.

2. Saved my 5's from the trip  now have $380.00

3. saved the $1,$5,$10,$20 last week for this week

4. uploaded all receipts from travel to Fetch.

5. used an app to find the cheapest gas, by the way it went up over 20 cents a gallon over the last week.

6. Found a pair of brand new Coach sunglasses at a rest stop on top of the toilet paper holder.  They were this years model and not a scratch on then.  Both daughter and I went through the parking lot trying to find the owner, but they were long gone.  I gifted them to my Eldest and she was thrilled.

7. Found .26 at the same rest stop on the ground

8. found another quarter on the floor of daughters car. Sorry mine now!

9. packed hard boiled eggs and cold pizza and chicken for drive down so no eating out.

10. Ate a good breakfast at mom's and split a salted nut roll with hubs and that was it for our way home, no stopping to eat.

11. took left over prime rib that I knew daughter would not use and made soup for Hub's folks.

12.Filled one of my 100 envelop challenge when I got home with left over trip money.

13. Picked up 4 loss leaders at Albertsons, butter limit 2, frozen veg limit 2, romaine salad limit 2,one doz eggs .76 limit one.  that should do it for groceries until next week. 

I want to get so many things done today.


Have a great and productive day staying positive while you are in the negative.


Kim

29 comments:

  1. Sorry his Dad is getting worse. It sounds like it is about time for the children to think about getting someone to come in to help now and then. Maybe a half day a couple times a week or so.
    Don't be so critical of hubs - some people are just not mechanical at all. I have known many. It is aggrivating - but it happens. His talents are musical not mechanical.
    Glad you made it home safely!!!

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    1. Well I do have to apologize as he did get the snowblower started. I just assumed as he does break many tools. You are right, I am too hard on him.

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  2. Glad you made it home safe and enjoyed some family time.

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  3. Glad you had such a great time with your family & made it home safely. I love the family pic. I'm sorry that your FIL is not doing well. Hope you & hubby stay safe & warm.

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    1. I really worry more about his mom as she bears the burden.

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  4. Do your in-laws have access to Meals on Wheels in their town? I have delivered in CT for years. The food isn't great (but they cater to individual needs, i.e. low salt, allergies, or even pureed) but it would put eyes on them every weekday (we delivered extra meals on Friday to last through the weekend). They get a hot meal, and then a smaller cold meal for later in the day (usually something like a couple of slices of bread and a cup of tuna fish to make a sandwich, plus a piece of fruit and milk).

    The case manager in our town is excellent - if a driver has any kind of worry, they immediately follow up to make sure everything is okay. In CT the cost is set on a sliding scale.

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    1. We have thought about it, but I doubt mom would allow it. We have a first cousin that lives right across the street so there is someone who sees them every day and if they go out of town they alert the neighbors.

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  5. So glad the trip went well overall. Sending good thoughts for your mother in law - that sounds like such a challenging situation. As other commenters have suggested, perhaps Meals on Wheels or someone to drop by for an hour a day would be a big benefit to them both?

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    1. The sad thing is that she has a daughter and several grandkids in town that should check on her, but they don't. It is the out of towners that do most of the work.

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  6. Your mother-in-law looks wonderful for 90 plus. I am sure all your family is concerned. Those vulnerable, elderly people should not be living alone. Time for a family meeting? Isabella

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    1. Oh I have had many but they seem to fall on deaf ears. This is a very selfish family. There are a few of us who will do it all and the selfish ones will be fighting over the will when the time comes. So glad it is not my responsibility, but I make sure Hubs does more than his share. And to tell you the truth he is very giving.

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  7. I'm sorry Dad is getting worse. It's so nice of you to do the cooking for Mom, sounds like she needs the relief. Glad you all made it back home safe and sound.

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    1. Thanks Belinda. I am so worried about mom. I pray every night that dad goes. I know that sounds awful, but he has no life and he is draining hers.

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  8. Kim-I'm sorry for what your MIL is going through, and maybe this is the opening to get her to accept ongoing help in the house. Meals on wheels, someone that could come in 2-3 days a week and leave her with clean laundry, meals prepped anything that takes pressure off her. I think you might have added a generation-I think it is a four, not five, generation photo, and how special!

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    1. You are right I counted 5 and it is four, I should not blog late at night I get rummy, without the rum.

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  9. Welcome home! Glad you had a good time with family, but there is no place like home. Does your husband's illness affect his memory? I'm sure that is hard on everyone. I wonder if your repair guy or you, could print out a checklist for maintenance stuff that your husband could check off.
    Love the picture! Your mil looks so happy to be with her family, and I love Schmill's big grin.

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    1. Oh yeah Hubs has memory issues and his meds make it worse. It is very frustrating for me and scary, and depressing. But I have to just try and be positive and joyful.

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    2. Sending hugs and prayers. I'm sorry.

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  10. You have pretty kids and grandkids! Your mother in law does not look like she is in her 90’s!!!!!

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    1. No she is very well preserved. But Hubs and I don't look our age either. We were both blessed with jobs that kept us moving and young in looks.

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  11. So sorry about your Husbands father. It is something that is very hard for care givers to go through.

    A great thrifty list there.

    God bless.

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    1. Thanks Jackie. I am at the point in my nightly prayers that I am begging our Father to take him home.

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  12. What a gorgeous photo of all the generations Kim. You should put that one in a frame as its a lovely one of them all.

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  13. It sounds like a great trip. I counted several times and I believe there are only four generations in that picture. I think your mil needs help. There are so many programs. Or, someone could pay to get them help. That is aggravating for your husband to cause the demise of tools! That gets expensive, doesn't it?

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    1. You are right, I did this post late at night and counted bodies.

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