I am surrounded by family and friends and hanging in there. It was a terrible shock. I felt extremely bad for Slug and her husband, having to be with us during this time. But I can't think of better people to be with. Lots of laughs and lots of tears. They were such a comfort to me and gave me so much strength, but who really wants to go through that? What a mess.
I want to send a special shout out to Cheryl at Cheryl's frugal corner. She lost her beloved husband in the same way a few years ago. I was so impatient with Joel. I used my blog as a sounding board. But after she lost her husband, I tried to quit doing that as I knew that she would give anything to have her husband back. I felt that trashing Joel in front of her would hurt her, so I tried to more kind, and more patient with him. I tried to ask myself what would Cheryl do? How would she act? I can honestly say I developed a deeper patience and love for my husband (who believe me could still cause me great aggravation) But by not writing out those feelings, I became more patient. I developed more understanding. Cheryl you will never know how much you taught me or how much you mean to me.
We all blog, and we never really know how we affect each other. What lessons do we learn from others who are so different than ourselves? Our lives are all so different, but we draw strength and knowledge from each other, when we are positive and kind.
Hilogene also lost her husband a few days after Joel. He also had a heart attack on Christmas day. Hilogene often comments on my blog.
Hug your loved ones, be grateful for your time, it can be over too soon.
I will get back into blogging next week. Say prayers for my family, as I have had that peace that passeth understanding with me since the moment of his death. I know it is the prayers that sustain me.
Kim
All of the love & good thoughts heading to you. Very happy to hear that you are surrounded by friends & family. Lean on them as you need to, and let them be a comfort to you. I know you have a habit of always helping everyone else, but now is the time for them to be there for you.
ReplyDeleteYour love for Joel was obvious. I'll continue to pray for you and your family.
ReplyDeleteDear Kim.. first time commenter here.. I’m sending my love and deepest sympathy for you and your family❤️ XO, Ricki in NY
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ReplyDeleteBless your 💜, Kim.
ReplyDeleteIt appears I missed the zoom. There seems to be no evidence it can be viewed again. Can you put up a link? I am so sorry for your loss of Joel.
ReplyDelete@Practical Parsimony-the services are on Thursday, Jan 5
DeleteTomorrow, Linda.
DeleteThanks. I supposed I missed an important fact.
DeleteThank you for sharing the link. I will be with you in spirit and prayers for you and your family go without asking.
ReplyDeleteI am so very sorry for your families loss. I will light a candle for Joel and all of you in my prayer corner. Sending hugs and love to all of you.
ReplyDeleteGod bless.
Oh Kim, I have never been so humbled, as I am at this moment. God bless you in every way. I guess we never know how we affect people we come in touch or contact with. I am humbled that you feel I helped you in some tiny way. My heart just aches for you so much. Yes, I have been through it, as have several of the ladies here - but I will never say I know what you are going through. Every person handles things in their own way and in their own time. Love you kiddo - I am holding you in prayer. Huge HUGS!
ReplyDeleteLove to you and your family, and especially hugs if I could reach, hilogene in Az
ReplyDeleteContinued prayers for you and your family. Virtual hugs. Cindy in the South
ReplyDeleteContinued prayers of comfort to you and your family.
ReplyDeleteOh Kim, it was always so clear on your blog that you deeply loved your husband. Please accept all the care your family and friends there give. My sympathies and blessings to you.
ReplyDeleteI am so very sorry for the loss of your life-partner. My first thought at hearing the news from Slug was "thank you God they took that cruise and had a blast together before you took him Home". I encourage you to put yourself first for awhile especially these first months. There is much to do right now and the time that follows can be very difficult. Be kind to yourself.
ReplyDeleteHugs to you.
I think we ALL rant about our husbands on our blogs sometimes...I mean who else are we around all the time to rant about? I saw you and your husband's pictures on Sluggy's blog and you all looked so happy. I am so sorry you lost him at such a young age and so suddenly, the shock must be overwhelming. Please reach out to us, your bloggy friends, if you need anything and my condolences go out to you, your family, and your friends at this tragic time.
ReplyDeleteKim, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in this time, I am so very sorry for your loss.
ReplyDeleteI’m so sorry about your husband. I just couldn’t believe it when Sluggy shared it on her blog. Continuing to send prayers and good thoughts your way. I’m so glad you have such a wonderful support system.
ReplyDeleteSending lots of love to you, your girls and your family during this time. Your love for your husband was evident, and vice versa.
ReplyDeleteSending love & prayers to you Kim ... I am just catching up on this very sad news - what a shock! We all love you out here in blogland so we are sending you our heartfelt wishes x0x0
ReplyDeleteDear Kim, you are in my heart and prayers. I'm grateful you hav the love and support of your family, friends, and community. Your words touched me too, and I will love harder on those in my life.
ReplyDeleteDear Kim, I’m so sorry. 💔
ReplyDeleteDearest Kim, I am so very sorry. Please know you are on my heart.
ReplyDeleteI am so very sorry for your loss. Sending peace and loving thoughts your way.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for your loss. You and Yours are in my prayers.
ReplyDeleteMy prayers for you and your family at this saddest of times.
ReplyDeletePlease remember, Kim, you are allowed to grieve. Also, there are as many ways to grieve as there are grieving people, and you are allowed to grieve the way you need, and to feel the things you need to feel, and do the things you need to do with no apologies. My heartfelt condolences, and thoughts are with you.
ReplyDeleteWhile I'm unable to get to the live feed (?), I'm sitting here, holding you, Kim, & your girls/grands/extended family in my thoughts & prayers. I know your faith is strong and will carry you through your grief in your loss of your life partner, Joel. May God be with you & comfort your broken hearts today & always. Sending you a huge HUGE virtual hug.
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DeleteI see I'm a bit early on the live feed - but sitting holding you all in prayer.
DeleteJoel's service was impressive.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for your loss. Wishing you peace and strength during this difficult time.
ReplyDeleteKim I watched the service - what an extraordinary man you married. Your daughter's tribute was wonderful and beautiful. So touching. I feel like I got to know him. May the Lord's comforting arms surround you and your family.
ReplyDeleteThank you for allowing us to share in Joel's service today. What a beautiful tribute.
ReplyDeleteKim, I'm so very sorry for the loss of your husband. My prayers are with you and your family.
ReplyDeleteSo very sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how heartbroken you must be. I, too, complain about my spouse, but sitting in this hospital room and having to face that possibility is agonizing. Prayers.
ReplyDeleteKim, thank you for the link. I wanted to watch but had an 11 am call with the VA about potential benefits. That won the contest of what I should do. The VA (Veterans administration) is a crazy place, it almost takes a decoder ring to get around. I am using the Arizona state Veterans group to help me….and from them, iI found out some good news today, maybe. The guy said it will take 2-3 months for them to make a decision. If your husband is a veteran, find a state veteran group to see if you have any benefits. I can help if you want by asking the Arizona group if they have contacts in Idaho. Hilogene in Az
ReplyDeleteKim, I watched the service today. It was a beautiful tribute to your husband. Your daughter did an amazing job sharing his life story. I have been reading your blog for several years but never comment. May God’s peace be with you and your family now and in the future. Kaly in PA
ReplyDeleteI am so very sorry for your loss. Sending you strength and comfort.
ReplyDeleteSorry for your loss. Hugs and sending prayers to you and your family.
ReplyDeletePraying daily as widow 30 some years ago I lost my 39 yr old husband to heart attack and finished raising our children alone. Still miss him and lucky to have Hubby that understands that. I said something to one daughter and her 4 yr old grandson came back with " he will be at Jesus's birthday party" God bless those
ReplyDeleteIt was a beautiful service, Kim. The outpouring of love well deserved for him and your family. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you feel all the love being sent your way.
ReplyDeleteThe service was lovely, and your daughter gave us a good picture of your husband. You're in my prayers. Love always, Rhitter.
ReplyDeleteI am so glad to hear of your family's loss.
ReplyDeleteKim, know that there are so many of us out here holding you and your family in our hearts. May your memories bring you warmth and comfort in the days ahead.
ReplyDeleteWhat a beautiful tribute to your husband. It really shows it isn’t what you have but who you are to others that counts and he counted to so many people! Blessed be his memory. Jre
ReplyDeleteKim, I'm praying for you and your family. I am a friend of Cheryl's too and she is a special person to me also. Love and gentle Hugs to you dear.
ReplyDeleteMy deepest sympathies on the loss of your husband, Kim.
ReplyDeleteJan 10th.... prayers Kim for you and yours. You was on my mind so I checked.
ReplyDeleteDear Kim, I am so sorry for your loss of your dear husband. I have been thinking about you everyday and ask God to give you comfort....
ReplyDeleteKim, I am so very, very sorry for your loss. My heart hurts for you.
ReplyDeleteI’m so happy Cheryl was able to help you through this the last few years. It’s true what they say to treasure the moments with friends and family because one day all you will have is the memories. It’s what has sustained me when losing loved ones. You’ll be in my prayers, Kim.
ReplyDeleteThis is so so sad, Kim. Take care of yourself and do what you need to do. Hugs to you.
ReplyDeleteI'm so very sorry for your loss, Kim. I hope you find peace and solace in your memories and in your faith.
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