Sis will be here for 5 more days and I will really miss her when she goes. She has spent a lot of time at Lil sis's working on helping Lil sis down size many things that she brought with her from St. Louis. Sis is a great organizer.
Mom had a weird, bad spell last night. 911 was called and it was a tense scary time. But all seems to be well physically. Mom just is a very spoiled person and has her hissy fits. When she is called on her behavior by Lil sis or Sis or myself she goes into pout mode and causes her own problems. I am quit upset with her as I think she took too many sleep meds. (these are now hidden by me) I really don't know what to think or what to say. I am upset that she is so selfish and inconsiderate. There is no appreciation for anything we do and it gets really hard to live with someone who is constantly unhappy and ungrateful. I feel like I am tap dancing as fast as I can. I am at a loss as to what I can do. I will just have to take this one day at a time. If she chooses to be miserable I will just have to deal. I am not a good dealer.....
I was very busy yesterday with a wedding dress and prom dresses. I will continue to work on wedding dresses today and I also have to go to the studio at 4.
Hub's took the left over cake and a large plate of cookies to his old office. They were very grateful as tree planting had started and all were at the office at 4 in the morning to unload the coolers and start planting (which is back breaking work). So coming back to the office for yummy treats and hot coffee was much appreciated. Hub's enjoyed himself.
Aprils goals:
Restart seedlings that I lost
Lose 10 lbs
get the home loan under $3000.00
clean all flower beds
plant garden if possible (it snowed in the last 24 hours)
Continue to work and complete bath rugs
Finish another 1000 savings chart
Spend as little on groceries as possible
Purchase nothing that is not necessary
So those are some great goals and the hardest one will be losing weight as I loves me a sweet roll.
Have a great and productive day staying positive while you are in the negative.
Kim
Oh Kim, I understand where you are coming from. I am not sure they choose to be unhappy or needy or miserable but circumstances make them miserable, which in turn makes us miserable. My mother has always been very demanding so that is no different, just an amped up version of what was always her norm, (I can say that today because we have had 2 fairy decent days with Mom and temporary decent times block some of the frustrations I normally feel)
ReplyDeleteLast week, however, as we were puling out of Mom's driveway after a particularly bad day in a particularly bad week, my sister rolled her window down and yelled "CHOCOLATE" at the top of her lungs. We say Mom does not drive us to drink, she drives us to chocolate. If I were there I would make you a big pan of fudge.
She has always expected perfection and was very hard on us growing up. In some ways I appreciated it as it made me what I am but then again it made me what I am. :0
DeleteHmmm...I wonder if there is another mother out there who expects perfection?
DeleteYes and I got it. I love you.
DeleteI loves me a sweet roll too!!!
ReplyDeleteI know any kind of bakery treat. Just ask Sluggy I can live on them.
DeleteI'm so sorry about your mom...that has got to be exhausting for you. (((((HUGS))))) You might want to put off working in the garden for about a week if your forecast looks anything like ours up here...rain, rain and more rain starting tomorrow. YUCK! I need to get my kids moved into that apartment down the street from us and this is NOT helping.
ReplyDeleteMoving oh joy.
DeleteMy neighbor was 94 when she died, was the least demanding old person I know. Or maybe it was that I was not kin so she was grateful for all I did...a lot. However, she would shake and cry if her daughter went out of town for one day. She would end up being truly ill. I am quite sure that someone in gerontology could tell why this happens. But, if your mother has always been demanding, I am not sure. I truly hate this is happening for you and your mother.
ReplyDeleteMy mother has always been very demanding to us girls. The boys could do anything they wanted. It was hard, It is still hard, it will become harder.
Deletehang in there..........did you see the new sewing machine I bought I posted about it on my blog
ReplyDeleteI know I am so excited for you. Get started and whip up something wonderful so I can be jealous of your talent.:)v
DeleteI'm sorry your mother is being difficult. That has got to be hard.
ReplyDeleteAs for the 10 pounds....it seems like there are quite a few of us that would like to do that. Like I told my husband earlier, I am really good for about 3 days then am tired of cutting back!!! But, it's time to clean up my eating, whether I lose any weight or not. Good luck on your journey.
I swear I have been living low carb since my dancing days Actually back then it was just true starvation. But I love sugar and sweets and bread and potatoes. It is hard to be short and large boned and muscular. I cannot lift weights as I start to look like a body builder. So it is walking, aerobic and hungry...
DeleteI did so poorly on my March goals, I wonder if I shoudl even bother for April-I might accomplish more. Oh the weight-why is it such an onging struggle?
ReplyDeleteBecause we love food. We have plenty of it available. Chocolate and sweet buns, donuts. I never really craved a carrot.
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