Tuesday, February 28, 2023

Tuesday, GRRRR!

 

I swear if one more thing goes wrong, I will blow.  I am trying so hard to be positive and not let little things get me down.  I have very little patience right now for life's bullsh*t. 

So here is my long tale of woe, or rant which ever seems fit.  Feel free to skip blog at this point.

On February 16th I rec'd corrected death certificates on Joel.

I called State of Idaho to inform them that I had certificate and by that time I had already received payments for January and February.  Those payments were immediately debited from my checking account on February 17th. I told the girl I talked to that I was not sure I had that much money as I used this money to pay bills.  Her response was one of shock.  "Oh, really?" Like every state retiree has thousands of dollars just sitting in their checking account unused.  I wanted to ask her which state she worked for as Joel never made over $40,000 a year after 28 years.  Idaho pays their employees nothing.  

So, this same shocked individual was to send forms out for me to fill out.  It is now the 28 and no forms so I call and find out that forms were mailed on the 22.  But are still not here.  Girl, I talked to couldn't mail them out? No that had to be done down the line.  But again, are still not here.  So young man today said he would email them to me, and he did.  But he failed to email one of the important forms.  

Forms are so complex I cannot figure them out, if they are not absolutely correct it will delay process.  I must send copies of my SSI card (I don't have one) a copy of my driver's license, and special form filled out that I did not receive.  All must be there and processed by March 15 or I will not receive any benefits April 1st.  This process delays month by month.  Oh, and don't send bad photocopies or faxes as then they will not process. SO how do you know if they get a bad copy?  Do they call you?  No that would be someone else's job. Drippy on the 16th couldn't even mail out forms. Why would anyone care?  One hand does not tell another what to do so you are just in limbo.

Now if that isn't enough to send me overboard, SSI has still not sent any widow's benefits (even though I have been approved. 

I have been walking on a torn-up kitchen floor for weeks and the floor men are due in today, they come, and they cannot move the fridge.  I have to call an appliance dealer to come and take it apart and move it and that is $150.00 in cash.  Floor men will return tomorrow.... I used the last of my cash in shop.

My kitchen sink needs new holes drilled in granite; they are also coming tomorrow on top of floor people!  It has taken 6 weeks to get them out here and I do not want to reschedule.  Also $200.00 in cash for house call, to drill 2 small holes.  Then get the sink put in?  

Insurance agent for new Medicare plan calls and wants to take 2 months up front out for Medicare gap. Sure, that is only a little over $500.00 dollars, why not?  Just keep taking money out of an account that has no money going into it....

I spent all day talking to different people at St. of Idaho retirement, everyone told me something different and no one sent all the forms I needed.  Finally, I lost it, and they had a supervisor call me. We spent over 3 hours on the phone and emailing, taking pictures, sending correct forms all of them before my process was done.  Now I am not stupid person. This is complex and without people knowing all the info it is impossible.  Guess what State of Idaho? Your people don't know what they are doing.  Even the supervisor walking me through which by the way is not her real job, was confused and shocked by the process. Changes need to be made folks that's all I am saying.

Thanks goodness I have laid in a food supply so I can eat. I really wanted to get some sewing done today and I am exhausted.

Pray for me.

Kim

30 comments:

  1. Well, that sounded like an ordeal! When the state knows a person is grief-stricken, you would think the process would be less hurtful to you at this time. Maybe you could suggest to that woman that a better process could be put in place. Poor Kim. Take a nap!

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  2. My sister's husband died in November. She just got a letter from the Bar Association (brother-in-law was a lawyer) demanding payment for delinquent dues. She said she called and was trying to explain that her husband had been sick and that she had tried to log into his account but the password wouldn't work, etc. She said she suddenly burst into tears (she was mortified) but the guy changed his tone and got it all figured out. I'm sorry everything has been such an ordeal for you.

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    1. That is exactly what I did. Burst into tears like an idiot and then action.

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    2. This is not the same but after my husband died years later he got a notice for jury duty. Note this was in the same county he died in. You know it was painful just to see that and wishing he was still alive and could. Well I was a little miffed and let it go and more notices came and came the one where they could arrest him if he didn’t respond. I did finally call and told them good luck trying and I was not unkind to the clerk (not her fault) but I did say the county should communicate a little. I work for the state and have other work under state statutes and the frustration! No one can answer a question right or they give written directions to no where!! Jre

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  3. Oh Kim, I am so sorry. Not that my sorry will change anything. I am lucky we had money in savings to pay all the bills while I am chasing down this stuff. As far as I can tell I am down $15,000 while I wait for the wheels of progress to churn. And I had free burial at the VA cemetery. But only the burial, not celebration of life or cremation or anything else. Some bicyclists got run down on the west side of Phoenix last week, 2 dead, ten crushed and in hospital. Their bike club set up a go fund me page. Normally I wouldn’t pay attention but after this, I gave money so the two families facing the death of their kin would have a bit more…not that I am flush but gees, death is very expensive…. Sigh. Love you my friend, hilogene in Az

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    1. You are such a good soul. I really want to meet you as we could have so much fun. I will be fine, but the aggravation.

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  4. Oh my. So much trouble. You deserve to have at least 10 rants. Hope things get straightened out very soon.

    God bless.

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    1. thanks Jackie. just having a place to rant is helpful and to know I have so many cheerleaders really helps also!

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  5. I just want to take them all on for you, Kim, and get everything sorted. I've had enough chaos myself, but as I'm working full-time, I'm not depending on anything to cover every day life costs. Hilogene is right- death is expensive. I'm so sorry this is happening to you when you should just be able to be lifted and supported. If I can do anything for you, I will.

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    1. Oh SAM, I just love you so much and the fact that you are willing to listen and then to help shows how good you are. I will be fine, as I have kids who can support me if needs be, but I love the support of this community. I am working on a girls trip possible next fall hope you are in for that. We should be able to really laugh by then. How are you doing? I worry about you and HIlogene.

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  6. Oh, Kim. That sounds so hard on top of all of the grief & other standard course of life stuff that you are going through right now. I'm so sorry that the finances are hard, in addition to dealing with everything else. Big hugs to you.

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    1. Thank you. I will be fine, I just have a very short fuse right now.

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  7. Big hugs kim. I hope things get sorted out and done very soon. Janie

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  8. You need an advocate to help you thru this part. A lawyer or a senior citizen advocate. Look online.

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    1. I have a daughter that can do this. I will go see her in a couple of weeks and she will help me with the last account. Then I think it is done!

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  9. I am so sorry you are having so many problems with all of this. I am fortunate that the state of IN did a fantastic job for me. I went into the SS office and after about an hour it was all taken care of. I too, was fortunate that we had funds to cover all I needed until things were settled. Can you just go in and take care of things?
    I sure hope they get this taken care of for you quickly. Huge hugs.

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    1. Well as it was explained to me they lost so many employees during covid, new ones are not properly trained, nor do they care.

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  10. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with all of this. It shouldn't be this way at all. Prayers it all gets sorted out soon.

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  11. Ugh, I am so sorry. What a mess. Changes definitely need to be made in the system. I hope the supervisor was able to get everything straightened out, and you will have a check in April. Prayers that it is all settled soon.

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  12. Contact your state rep, Attorney General, governor and the lawyer handling the estate. Keep pushing for this to be easier for those in mourning. Use the anger. frustration to help others. I don't know what a SSI card is.

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    1. That is exactly what I came to say.

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    2. This. Reach out to your local legislative representative.

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  13. I am sorry you are going through this. It still helps galvanize me on though. I have given up on the missing will. She didn't have a whole lot anyway. I might have to go through orphans court to finalize her estate. I know there are better days ahead.

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    1. Thaks, there have to be because I am not going to last long if I have relive yesterday.

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  14. I could feel your blood pressure here in Missouri. I am so sorry you are going thru this. People need to be more compassionate and government employees need more sensitivity training and as well as a master's degree on filling out bullcrap forms!

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