Monday, July 30, 2018

Monday, Off again!

     I had a nice relaxing time with daughter and her husband and our grandson.  Hubs stayed home to help someone move and I could do what I wanted, when I wanted.  I was not nagged and drug around and forced into cooking, cleaning, hiking, riding and going all the time.  It was great.  Now don't get me wrong I love to hike and bike and go but I really at this point just need rest.  A weekend of quiet and rest.

     Friday we were able to get mom's car sold and all the paperwork done.  What a mess.  I picked up the check on Sunday and took it to my sister to put it back into mom's estate. That should be settled soon and we will all know where we stand.

     We looked at a couple of places with land but decided that they were too far out for us.  We need to be able to split the distance between our daughter and us.  I fear if the place is too far out we will not enjoy it as much as we should.

     I am not looking forward to the long car ride tomorrow for Uncles funeral but it must be done.  Hub's will play at the funeral.  I think we will come home late Wednesday which I would like, if not we will leave Thursday sometime.  I hope this is the last funeral trip for a while. Out west we spend so much time in cars traveling from place to place.  It is nothing to drive 5-6 hours to get somewhere. But it gets very old.

     I am trying to decide what my problem is, and I think it boils down to, grief, not allowing myself enough time to really grieve, and just feeling like I am in limbo, fluttering around through jello like fog.  Can one flutter in jello?  Having to go constantly is not helping or maybe it is a blessing.  I cannot decide.  I just want to be left alone so I can be. I keep thinking wouldn't it be nice to have a schedule I could keep and have everything really neat and tidy.  But I have decided life just ain't neat and tidy, at least mine isn't.  Is anybodies?  If yours is please let me in on your secret.  I just keep going on with my habit of frugality, trying to save where I can and pay off debt.  All this traveling isn't super kind to the budget.

Monday's money saving madness July 22-29 2018

1.Eating out of freezers and pantry
2. no shopping of grocery sales
3. Eating out of garden, lettuce, tomatoes, squash cucumbers, lots of salads
4. Eating all our leftovers.
5. feeding food scrap to chickens
6. running fans in bedrooms, and letting cool air in at night, we also stay in basement saving on air conditioning.
7. I found .13 this week in three different places. just keeping an eye out.  At this pace I should be able to retire in about 1 million years.
8. Avoided buying anything I did not need at stores I went into.  (you have no idea how hard this is for me)
9.Skipped getting the old haggy nails done again but I am afraid this is at its last
10. kept the water bill down under 200.00 this month for the first time in years.

So how are you doing in money saving? Any frugal habits you want to share?

Have a great and productive day staying positive while you are in the negative.



  1. My goodness for all you have been through in the past many months - I would say what you are feeling if VERY normal. Everyone gets over whelmed at times - but you haven't had any let up.
    It will take time - be kind to yourself and don't hurry it. Grieve my friend - grieve.

    You definitely need some alone time. That is usually the only thing that helps me. I have been know to get in my car - drive some where quiet - and then I just scream, yell, and cry. Sounds crazy but it helped!

  2. ((((((HUGS))))) Kim. You have been going through so many losses and it is no wonder you feel yourself flailing. I remember feeling that way when we lost 3 family members within a 2 week time frame and I just could not catch my breath. I did not have the time I needed to grieve for one, let alone three of them. It took me months to process it all.

    I think Cheryl gave you some very wise advice. You do need some alone time to rest, grieve and just "be" for a bit. Praying that you will be able to do that for you.

  3. I'd say you are having all the normal reactions to grief. It just takes time, and no one can tell you how long that will be.

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