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Because I am a widow, I need to be doing older woman widow things. Things I am not ready to do, nor do I want to do. I don't want to do genealogy for hours. This is something that many enjoy. Not me. I don't want to sit in front of a computer and research. (Remember I do have a degree in computer programming)
I don't want to be labeled and put in a widow's group like I am damaged goods. I don't want to be nicely manipulated. In fact, when I smell this, I get very angry, which I know is wrong. I do believe people care; they just go about it wrong.
Do not try and fill my hours with things that you think a widow should be doing. Do not treat me like I am not of value except to do the widow things you think I am capable of. In fact, if that is your case leave me alone.
I am a vibrant friendly, outgoing, energetic person who needs to be with people. I am not doddering around waiting to be taken care of. I want to be involved in all the fun things that younger people do. I am capable. There I have said it. Don't know if it is going to do any good. But I have said it.
I need to get busy sewing today. Last week was a dive and not in the right direction. I do have plenty to do. The only excuse I have for not doing it is well..... me. Dang, I need to talk to me.
I made a nice dinner for Sissie and Dan last night and we will have the leftovers tonight in the form of shepherd's pie. I am hungry now. Might not wait until dinner. Sissie and I are making shortbread today and tomorrow. I already took cookies to my shut-ins. I have left two dozen cookies undecorated for Kelsa. Can't imagine what she will do with them, but we will see.
Now I have to do something constructive in the shop and I don't want to. That is my mood.
God is good, Kim is not good
Kim
I am so sorry Kim. I am not widowed, but I am divorced, and have had difficulties with how I am treated regarding that status, so I do somewhat understand how you feel. Virtual hugs. P.s. I hate genealogy! Cindy in the South
ReplyDeleteStanding ovation! I'm younger than you and my in laws want to compare my situation and life to my 84 year old Mother in Law. I don't want to sit with her and her cronies, and I know I'm being a bit rude, but it's insulting. I don't know what I want to do yet, but it's not sitting in prayer circles, endless bridge clubs, and coffee talks. I'm sorry Kim, that people are treating you this way.
ReplyDeleteI love everything you said about still being vibrant. Except that it's bad. It is wonderful to know your own worth!
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DeleteRegardless of our situations, none of us fit in a box. I'm sorry people are making you feel this way. You do you, and if others aren't happy, well, too bad!
ReplyDeleteI’m sorry you feel anyone is putting you in a box. Don’t let them. Live for you. If this is stereotyping from the church consider your own path.
ReplyDeleteNo one should be put in a box, widow or not. You definitely be you.
ReplyDeleteGod bless.
I dislike it when people try to put labels on others Kim - you certainly ARE vibrant, friendly outgoing & energetic!!! I wonder where you get your energy from some days. You amaze me with all you achieve. Ignore them - you do You Kim. xx
ReplyDeleteOh, NO. I understand about people deciding for you. I am divorced. I went to a different church than when I divorced in 1980. They decided they should have a singles group. There were two ladies who were okay, but much older than I was. Everyone thought they were lesbians. I did not know or care. Another woman was in her 80s and not someone I even talked with at all. Another was a terribly deformed guy who did not have much to say to anyone until his eyes lit up when he saw me. Another guy had a very low IQ. I was the only person who did not want a singles group. I was 30 and each of these people were decades older than I was. I did not want to join the quilting group. It was all so demeaning and discouraging. Only the lesbians were anyone I would want to associate with regularly. I am so sorry you are facing this.
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