Tuesday, November 23, 2021

Tuesday, still trying to cope


I am telling you the more I know the less I want to, and the more painful this gets.

Thanks for all your well meaning responses it helps, but is also hurts so bad.

There is a go fund me set up under the name Chayla-Zinn Sandberg, to help with the burial of the babies.

My nephew is so bitter and angry right now and who can blame him?

I think the anger is easier  for him to deal with than the death right now and that is a coping mechanism.

Anyway I don't beleive Travis will be able to go back to work for a while and although the funeral expenses have been met could probably use more help.

That is just my feeling.  He is teetering on a very thin edge.

I just can't believe that our family will have 4 graves in the baby cemetery in Missoula.  I am so glad my mother is on the other side because she could not have handled this.

Anyway, what a rotten Thanksgiving week post and I am sorry.  But I am grateful for strong family and love.  It is what is sustaining us right now.

Prayers are powerful things and we need then right now especially for my nephew.  The bodies were to be released yesterday, but the coroner would not let Travis see them yet, then and I do not want him to see them.  But he is insisting and I think it will just make his anger worse.  Please pray for him that he can get through this.

Kim 

26 comments:

  1. I cannot imagine how sad and/or angry you all are as you work through this. I am so sorry. And, this is your Thanksgiving week, too, so say whatever you need to share.

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  2. Share what helps you cope. Sending every ounce of strength and love I can.

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    1. Thanks Sam. Some times I think I am okay and then I am not.

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  3. I think your nephew probably needs to see his children for himself. My Mom was that way. Even though she'd just seen someone alive, she had to see them again to know for herself it was true even though expected. We all cope differently.

    Prays for you all as you face this horrific situation.

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    1. He said they had tried to make them look as good as possible but it was still very hard. Yesterday was a hard day.

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  4. (((Kim))) praying for your nephew and all of you.

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  5. Heart breaking. I can understand the anger - who wouldn't be? Senseless. I am holding your family and especially your nephew in prayer.

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    1. I really appreciate that Cheryl. You have no idea.

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  6. Prayers for your entire family. Therapy does help when the time is right.
    Debbie

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    1. I am going to suggest that for his family, especially for there older 1/2 sister.

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  7. I have been thinking about your family. No words can ease this at all. Sending your much love and prayers.

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  8. I can't even imagine how angry your nephew is feeling.
    I'm praying for you all.

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  9. My great niece was murdered by her father. It was a brutal death. She was 1 years old. I am praying with all my heart. He will never be the same. Love and prayers!!!

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    1. Beth how tragic,I just don't understand. This is so hard.

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  10. Praying for your family! Such a horrible, sad tragedy for your family to go through. Praying for courage and comfort for you all!

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  11. I send you all the strength and bravery that I can to help your family get through all of this. To your nephew, I send love and courage, because no one should have to go through what he is right now. You will be in my prayers as well. Ranee

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  12. I'm glad you have your family to lean on during this extremely difficult time. Sending you all a lot of love & good wishes. I'm so sorry for what you're dealing with.

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  13. I'm so sorry to read about the tragic loss of your great neice and nephew. I will hold them, along with th father and your entire family in my heart and prayers at this time.

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  14. This is just so sad and makes one feel sick. Senseless accidents can be tragic enough but this has to cause so much anger and rage. Making things so much more….. all I can offer are my prayers. So sorry.

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