Monday, August 19, 2019

Monday, so glad we went...

     Hubs is rather shy and he was not planning on going to his 50th High School reunion.  But I talked him into it.  Mostly I wanted to see how many people he would remember as his memory issues get worse.  He was painfully shy in high school.  As soon as we got to the event a man came right up to him and shook his hand and said," Hi Joel."  I could tell Hubs had know idea who he was.  But as we entered the very crowded area many people recognized Hubs and came up to him.  Needless to say he had a great time.  After he calmed down we were able to sit and had many people come by who wanted to talk to him.  I sent him to get water refills and it took forever for him to come back because people kept stopping him to talk to him.  It was so good for him.

     Hubs was the concert Master to the large city orchestra his senior year and also sang in a premier singing group.  He had a really good voice and still does.  Because there were two high schools the orchestra was combined and Hubs spent 1/2 of his time at the rival high school playing the violin.  His senior year his parents wanted him to take a job at a local lumber mill to help offset the costs of his older brothers mission.  Hubs would go to work at the mill at 11:00 p.m. work all night then go do a paper route.  His mom would let him sleep until noon then rouse him to get to orchestra and his music classes.  His principal stopped him in the Hall that spring and asked him what he planned to do next year.  I can just see Hubs carrying his violin and moseying down the hall toward the band room. Hubs replied he planned to go to college and study music.  The principal said well you are failing your English class due to lack of attendance and will be going to Vietnam.  Hubs explained his circumstances, and the principal told him to go get measured for a cap and gown and signed his diploma on the sly.  That would never happen today.

     Things were different back then and people dropped out of school to help support their family.  Hubs music was important to his mother and him so that kept him going.  The fact that hubs was working a grown mans job and also doing a large paper route by himself and his parents controlled all his money did not help him to learn to love hard work.  He saw nothing fun from his investment of time and energy.  The only thing he was allowed to spend money on was the church and his mission.  This gave him a real distaste for hard work.  He did complete a mission in the Philadelphia area and when he came home was still not allowed to touch any money in the "family " savings account. his parents later used the money to send the younger girls to school to find husbands, which they did.  Hubs was the only one to graduate from the University with absolutely no help from his parents.

     I swear we ate nothing but junk for the 28 hours we were gone, and I am paying for it this morning.  There is so much to do here and I am having a hard time convincing myself that I need to get to work.

     Oh by the way the dryer that I paid $105.00 to have fixed, was not fixed after I finally got to the laundry late Friday afternoon.  So I had to hang two loads of laundry to dry.  But I am proud to say that I did get all the ironing done  Friday evening as I watched You Tube videos.  There is just a little ironing left from the line that I will finish today.

     I absolutely must clean the family room and vacuum the down stairs today.  I have been so busy sewing that I have not done any house work except what is a have to, to survive.   So today although I am feeling very lazy I will get these things done....

1. clean and vacuum family room
2. finish ironing
3. get dryer fixed again
4. vacuum stairs
5. vacuum upstairs
6. go pick all garden produce that is ready
7. figure out dinner
8. get a wedding dress done
9. start another wedding dress
10. alter several things for a client
11. get a few groceries this evening

     There the list is made now if I can just get to work.  My motivation is low so I might have to kick my own butt.   This however is easy for and Irish dancer.

     What are you going to do this Monday?  Any plans?

Have a great and productive day staying positive while you are in the negative.

Kim

16 comments:

  1. That's a very sweet story of your hubby and the reunion. I'm glad it was so good for him. Can you imagine a teenager today doing what he did for his family? My friend can't even get his teenage son to help mow the yard or shovel snow.

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    1. I have a child who is a throwback. He is 20 and helps me and hubby all the time without asking(he noticed the lawn was long and mowed the other day). My older out of the house children also always say mom just ask ....so not all kids are in the no familial obligation category.

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    2. It was so good for him, and I have to say my husband is one of the most forgiving people I know.

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  2. I am so glad you made your hubby go. Reunions can be a lot of fun. I wasn't popular at all in school - but I just love going back to see what every one is up to. It usually makes me feel pretty darn good about myself as well - (secret) - many didn't turn out all that great!
    I played the violin in the orchestra for 9 years.

    You husband sounds like he was a good son. Sad it shaped his perspective of hard work and saving - it would have me too!
    Don't over do it girl. You work too hard.

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    1. Hubs was saying the same thing. Unusual statistic is that he went to the grade school that had the highest household income i the city and they also had the highest death rate by about 4 times the population. Why? Money had them develop bad health habits? We do not know but it was weird.

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  3. I am glad your hub had a good time at his reunion. Reconnecting without all of the nonsense of cliques and being a teenager is a good thing.
    I am sorry your husband was not allowed to keep at least some of his earnings. That was seriously unfair.

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    1. His parents even tried to control him after we got married. We could never buy a car that we desperately needed. We could not have a car nicer than theirs. But we changed things over time.

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  4. I'm so glad your dh had a great time at his reunion.

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    1. It was so good for him and I am so happy we went. Are you happy to be back in school?

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  5. My dad talks about working as a grocery bag boy in the evening and on Saturday mornings. He made $5 a week and each Saturday afternoon his sister would meet him at the store and buy groceries for the family. He was child 8 of 9 and ended up leaving town when he was 16. He knew he'd get no where if he kept working and supporting his mom, younger brother, older sisters and their babies. It's probably a good thing he left as he would have become bitter in that situation. Anyway, your husbands story made me thing of that.

    I'm glad you talked him into going and had a nice time.

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    1. Families did a lot of that back then. Everyone just pooled their resources. His mother was always preaching a family savings account to all the kids even after they were married. No one would go for it. I wonder why?

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  6. That is a sad story about his working so hard and getting nothing. At least his mother encouraged music. I am glad he had a good time.

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    1. Yes his mom made sure all the kids had lessons and from the best teachers she could afford.

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  7. Good for you, making him go to the reunion and have a good time! I don't like stuff like that, and have never been to one of my reunions.

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    1. I bet you would be a hit as you are very funny.

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  8. It sounds like Hubs did not have easy high school years. He should be proud of the fact that he paid his own way through college. I and Hubby did the same thing.

    I am happy that you had some downtime and enjoyed the reunion. It looks like you did a great job on your list!

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