Question #1 will it ever quit snowing? Answer: NO!
Our weather here has been something else. It is treacherous to drive. My driveway is horrid and I swear all Hub's does is go outside and shovel snow. Poor guy he has a lot to take care off. It is hard to get mom out as she cannot manage the driveway.
We had a nice time with our daughter and grandsons. Baby is a little fatty and so cute. I loved their new house and really liked the lay out. All the bedrooms are up on the upper level. It is a much more functional house for them. Son-in-laws mom has her own suite and that makes it really nice for her. They are a lucky couple to have her.
The weather was dangerous and awful when we went down. We arrived at Hub's parents house and you guessed it, mom had squash, baked potatoes, and she had pulled steaks out to boil. ( not broil) Hub's and I had eaten something at our last stop so we could avoid the food trap. Now it was not healthy food, gas station food. But any thing is better than mother-in-laws cooking. The weather was so bad that daughter text us and said not to continue, they were shutting down her county. So now we had to at in-laws house. I insisted on broiling the steaks but did not want to eat. I WAS NOT HUNGRY. This woman's life depends on force feeding everyone around her. So finally we sit down to dinner, I cut a miniscule piece of steak and a small cube of squash, the baked potatoes are old mealy shrunken and cold. I cut the steak into the smallest pieces possible and tried to eat, but I was so full. Now she brings out ice cream and my stomach is upset and I thought a couple of tablespoons of ice cream might settle this, well wrong move. I no sooner had the spoon in my mouth than I had to run for the bathroom and I swear lost every bit of food I had eaten since Christmas. Dry heaved for over an hour. Collapsed on the bed. I was fine the next day but on the way back we stopped at this station and found out they had recalled the icing they used on their baked goods, it was making people sick. Lucky me!
The next morning she had this huge breakfast that I refused to eat. What about I just puked my guts out do you not get? When we were coming home we stopped to make sure they did not need anything and of course mom wants us to stay and eat. NO NO NO NO. But she has a roast in the crock pot. (You mean a piece of shoe leather with no flavor) She insists on making us sandwiches on her homemade cardboard ww bread. Also old broccoli starting to turn yellow and bittered is put in a bag and 4 oranges. Hub's is throwing oranges out as we go down the highway. I swear her while life centers around food. I love to eat but this is ridiculous.
My mother-in-law also informed Hub's that when Dad goes she would like to live with Hub's and I. She has three daughters, but the youngest has schizophrenia and is heavily medicated. Her older two have 6 kids apiece and each of those kids has 4-5 children and they all live very close. Which means the houses are full of many, many young kids. If the daughters even watch the children of two of the kids that can mean 8-10 kids at a time. Their houses are always filled with grandkids. Hub's mom can't handle the noise for very long and I can't blame her. It is one thing to be in your 60's and have many little ones but in you late 80's she really needs peace and quite. Great! I will have bitch wicked in the basement and a woman force feeding me un edible food on the main floor. That's it! Sluggy and I are taking off, Don't know where we are going but we are going some where.
Mom had a doctor's appointment last Monday and Lil sis took her as I was not home. Both Lil sis and I had sent letters into the doctor about mom's condition and behavior. He must have listened because he did a bunch of test and changed up her meds adding and anti depressant. She was mad and of course it is our fault but I am making sure she takes her meds. Lil sis and I are going to go through everything and help her with this. She won't want the help and insist that she can take care of herself, but she cannot. Doctor told her under no circumstances was she to drive. Her A-fib could knock her out at any time. I hope this is a blessing. I would love to get rid of her car.
I am trying some new things to try and beat my depression. The weather is not helping, but I have to do something. More on this later.
Have a great and productive day!
Kim
OK first things first! When you mentioned boiled steak I think I gagged a little.
ReplyDeleteIf MIL wants to live with you, sell her house take whatever you get out of it and use it to add on a suite to your house. Make it 2 br and 2 baths and you can put both moms there.
Oh and I am right there with you with a mom who needs help but insists she doesnt.
What a great idea!
DeleteYour MIL's food reminds me exactly of my MIL! we just cannot eat it, or just picked at it, if we had to. She didn't boil steaks but she'd take perfectly good steaks and smother them with butter and then broil and they'd be like trying to eat a piece of shoe leather. Her idea of a salad was a head of lettuce placed on a plate in the middle of the table, LOL. We'd go over for holiday's, eat a tiny bit and then stop at fast food on the way home.
ReplyDeleteWhat is it with bad cooking? I just don't get it. I think I know with my mother in law it is because she is cheap. But also not paying attention and maybe a little simple.
DeleteMy MIL was a horrible cook. And, ex insisted on spending one month there in July. Since they lived in NY, she did not have ac. I tried to eat fast food as often as possible when there. The day before we were to leave and drive back down South, she put turkey legs in the oven to bake forever. I was ill from the heat and working in it to come home. I ate nothing of that dinner. Everyone was angry at me. I did not eat green peas and she had that for the vegetable. As it turns out, 50 years later it turns out I am allergic to green peas. Another year I was pregnant and forbidden to eat "all day." I could write a book.
ReplyDeleteSo, how did your mother do staying alone when you were gone? I expected to hear she did not fare well or got into trouble.
If the doctor says she cannot drive, if you sell the car, that will keep her from trying to drive. I hate you are in the middle of all this!
That is one month every year!
DeleteMom did great I think she enjoyed some time alone. Lil sis can be very mean to her. I get upset but don't say anything. Lil sis says I am a door mat, but I call it respect.
DeleteOne time my MIL had made cornbread and it came out flat like a pancake. She was so angry and stomping and cussing about the cornbread. I got the empty package from the trash and was reading the instructions. I asked how many eggs she used? None, she didn't have any. Ok, how much milk did she use? None, she didn't have any! She used cornmeal and water and was mad because it didn't make cornbread! lol Boy, she was a bad cook!
ReplyDeleteMy mother in law would do the same thing always trying to save money and calories.
DeleteThsnk God my mom is still great with all her faculties. Years ago with first mil the kids,would cry to eat at hom first and i would fill them to the gills. The great grandmother was cooking amazing food into her 90's my mil not so much. Maybe its time for a family meetimh and a nursing home vote
ReplyDeleteHugs
J
And I thought I was alone!
ReplyDeleteDo we have the same mother-in-law? lol New follower. Enjoying reading your blog.
ReplyDeleteYes, yes we do, welcome to my chaos and anxiety soul sister.
DeleteThank you!
DeleteMy mom would boil steaks too - she would buy the cheapest cuts and simmer them in water to soften them up. Didn't work of course and absolutely tasteless! Her roast beef would be 1/3 of its original size after spending the whole afternoon roasting away. She worried a lot about bacteria in meat so everything was over cooked. But we all survived those bacteria!!
ReplyDeleteI just don't get it. So maybe it is a generational thing?
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