Yesterday, was so full of family drama that I had a complete melt down. Between my Lil Sis and mom and then add the drug addict brother into the mix and you have one rollicking day.
It was not pretty, and I feel so bad for my mother. I am angry at her for not standing up to my brother and for kissing Lil sis's butt after she is heinous, then yelling at me. I figure mom made her bed now she gets to lay in it but It is my fault. Okay Sissie where are you? Super Sissie you need to put your cape on and get over here.
Anyway this morning started out with a threatening text from druggie brother. When he doesn't get his way he bullies you and scares you into giving him what he wants. This is real as he has broken bones on all of us girls for minor infractions. Then mom covered it up or told us we were in the wrong, or that said events did not happen, which is why I have a dent in my skull.
But I have decided that I am going to go forward and get something done. I need to take care of me. I need to produce in my shop, I need to feel good about myself. I need to take one day at a time and get the most out of each day. I need to be positive.
So as I have a baby shower on Saturday and there are several things I need to do.
1. Make 4 quiches
2. make 3 dozen different muffins
3. clean the house thoroughly
4. get sewing caught up ****** (This will be done first)
5. make something for dinner
6. get some exercise
7. love my life
6. don't hurt or maim my mother ( a work in progress)
Things may be tough here but I have not lost my sense of humor.
I need to get busy I have a life to live.....
Have a a great and productive day!
Kim
sounds like you should save that text and put a restraining order on brother. Scary.
ReplyDeleteHe has a restraining order on right now. But those are only as good as the police department. He constantly broke his order and they did nothing.
Deletesadly, that is very true.
DeleteI like your battle call. Think about this quote from Maya Anjelou.."Believe who people are when they show you." (Others have added "the first time" to this quote.) In other words, don't waste your time on people like your brother. Move on when you realize that people are not going to change. They have already shown their cards to you a long time ago. It's now up to YOU to emotionally distance yourself from those who create havoc in your life. If you don't do that, then the onus is on you because you have not accepted that it is a lost cause!
ReplyDeleteI have nothing to do with him. We moved mother out of Missoula because she could not stand up to him. He lived with her and stole, from her, and took her meds, and abused her for years. Dad died and he moved in immediately as dad would not tolerate his behavior. He was with Mom for 7 years and we had, had enough.
DeleteI second the restraining order. Don't put up with this criminal behavior.
ReplyDeleteI don't, my mother does. But she lives with me now and don't worry my husband will not tolerate him at all.
DeleteHoly cow! I'm praying for you woman!!! I have a relative who was a druggy and alcoholic but has recently given it all up. His demeanor has improved 150% percent and is so nice to be around anymore. I used to walk on eggshells around him afraid of what might trigger a confrontation by me or someone else. yikes... that is NO fun!
ReplyDeleteIt was terrible all the time my kids were growing up. He was so scary and evil. But mom gave in always and we were in the wrong.c
DeleteThis is serious. I want you to be happy and SAFE. So, instead of ignoring him, call in reinforcement from the law. These abusers eventually kill or seriously maim someone far beyond broken bones. I don't know how you get so much baking done!
ReplyDeleteDon't worry dear I doubt if he ever comes here, we would run him out so fast. Mom and I do work well together.
DeleteI am so sorry. I agree with doing something to stop the harassment and threatening behavior.
ReplyDeleteHope you will take care of you first. Your mom does realize if you sink her support system sinks also doesn't she?
Take care, and carry a big stick?
I have been trying to convince my Sister to get a guardianship on mom and she has refused, but I think I have enough pull now to do it myself. Once I have that brother will no longer have access to her money and neither will anyone else. I will put my daughter who is an attorney in charge. That way I can't be blamed.
DeleteThat will get your brother in the jugular. I hope you can arrange the guardianship. So many elderly people are abused financially by relatives. It's time to turn off the money flow to your brother and protect your mother's money for HER. Be strong and do it!
DeleteYou had so much on your plate already before this threatening text! I'm so sorry you are dealing with so much and I agree that you need to take care of yourself first! If your batteries aren't charged so to speak or you feel too stressed, you aren't going to be able to help anybody! (((hugs)))
ReplyDeleteI am going out to lunch today with a friend just to get away. Yippee!
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