Friday, February 10, 2017

Friday, I am really trying......

     I am really trying not to lose my mind, it might already be gone, who knows?  Mom has a doctor appointment this afternoon and one on Monday.  I swear she has two or three a week on purpose.  She has meds to pick up constantly. 

     Yesterday I kept a tick list next to my machine and every time she called for something or needed me I would put a tick down.  From 11:00 in the morning to 5:30 I had 33 ticks.  I won't do this again too disheartening.  Anyway I did take her down to the western union office to send money to my drug addict, insane, sick brother for his birthday.  The lady at the place knows us as we are there a lot sending money, mom gives me nothing.  We do insist on a stipend that barely covers her costs, actually it doesn't cover them but believe me I won't ask for more.  She is snotty about it and calls it rent.  No mom it is your cell phone your netflix and cable, your pads, your ensure, your constant need for crap food we don't eat.  Mom it is your share of expenses.  No let's give it all to my two indigent brothers, one who has been a drug addict all his life and the other with 5 kids, divorced, never has a job, has never bought a car as mom and dad always did that for him and mom pays his child support.Mom is very selfish, and cheap when it comes to her money.  Unless you are one of the boys then you just have to look pathetic and her check book is out.

     Mom is upstairs destroying the kitchen I just cleaned.

     I have plenty to do today, lots of end to tie up.  I did pick up my taxes and I was pleasantly surprised as I thought we would owe a lot, but we actually get a refund from the state and it is enough to pay the Feds.  So it is a wash.  Although the accountant was $370.00.  But well worth the expense.  I am going to have taxes taken out of Hub's retirement this next year to help keep us from owing as I won't have the studio loss to help any more.

     So I have something to be really grateful for right now, no large tax bill.  I will take that blessing thank you very much!

I need to have something for dinner, Hmmm.... Navy bean soup?

Have a great and productive day!

Kim


10 comments:

  1. No large tax bill is a HUGE blessing! And the accountant is worth every penny! I honestly don't know how you keep your sanity. I would be in jail by now. ... Must be a soup day. I have hamburger vegetable soup in the crock pot. Hope you have a good weekend.

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  2. My MIL is just like that - doesn't understand why I won't shell out the $309 for just one medicine. She says we should be taking care of her. So aggregating

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    1. Isn't life fun? Mom does pay for her own meds thank goodness.

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  3. Hurrah for the tax positive, even if the rest of the day was a little disheartening! I do feel your pain with your mom. With me it is phone calls. I think she had called me about 8 times before noon.

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    1. Well at least you have the option of not answering the phone, but then the guilt would get you. My mom can throw guilt across great distances.

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  4. Kim,
    Make a list of her expenses and the amount. Add it all up and give it to her, telling her she does not pay RENT, she just pays part of what her expenses are.

    My mother left everything to the two youngest of her five children. They were not leaches, but they were spoiled! They were better off than the older three because they had their address listed as my parents address. Daddy got tired of the calls and knocks on the door, so he just paid their credit card bills. Even when my brother was in England in the AF, he kept charging and they kept paying his bills! it seems that children that try get nothing and the ones who don't try or make horrid choices get everything. Why?

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    1. Oh trust me we have done this and it does no good.

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  5. Oh my dearest Kim - I am sorry for your woes. As a mother of an only child, I am guilty of over indulging Buttercup. And that is one of the reasons why I am in debt. I've had to tell her NO several times in the past few months, and it has been hard, but in the long run it will be better for our relationship. Until your mother can learn to say no to your brothers, YOUR relationship with her will not flourish. My heart breaks for you.

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    1. I have had to learn to say no to my kids to and it is hard.

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